Being able to get back on our feet, moving on from a difficult or stressful situation, and taking a rough moment as a learning experience is easier said than done. Emotional resilience refers to the ability to calm our minds and finding the motivation and the strength to get over life’s most challenging events. Just like emotional intelligence, we can learn to develop emotional resilience, and here are some useful tips on how to achieve this.
- Consider yourself as your best resource. Whenever we are going through a difficult moment, it is important to use critical thinking, problem-solving, and reasoning skills. This will help us understand what caused this situation better, allowing us to become our best resource. Instead of blaming others or trying to point our finger at someone else, think of the actions we took to end up in this place and find a way to get out of there, too.
- Be empathetic with yourself. Empathy is one of the most important traits we can develop, and learning to be empathetic with ourselves is key for emotional resilience. Everybody must face difficult situations in life, regardless of their particular circumstances. Everybody goes through hard experiences, yet we should remember those experiences don’t define them or how much they are worth, and neither it happens to us.
- Remember to practice patience. Learning to be patient while dealing with a difficult situation is another important skill that will help us build emotional resilience. Instead of rushing a temporal solution to our problems, being patient and taking the time to think about our possibilities will help us reach a permanent solution, instead. Also, remember to avoid seeing yourself as a victim, and see yourself as brave and courageous.
- Be aware of the possibilities. In order to become emotionally resilient, we need to become curious and explore all the different possibilities that we can. Understanding that there might be many solutions to our problem, and learning to take constructive criticism will help us develop the skills to overcome our challenges. The more information we have, the wiser the decisions we take will be.
“Strong people alone know how to organize their suffering
so as to bear only the most necessary pain.”
― Emil Dorian