Being heartbroken and feeling hopeless is quite common when we have just broken up with a person we loved. There are many emotions that arise from the end of a relationship, with shame, disbelief, unworthiness, and anger taking over our hearts. Even when we might feel like our entire world has just collapsed, we need to remember that regaining our confidence, and healing our broken hearts is part of the process. If you or anybody you know is struggling with recovering from a breakup, these are the steps to take in order to find the solace we all need.
- Don’t rush the mourning of your loss. When it comes to recovering from a breakup, regardless of the time we spent on a relationship, mourning our loss is an essential step to healing. This means going through the five stages of grief: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. Mourning is the first step to healing, and if we rush it or skip it, we will simply not be ready to start another relationship again.
- Practice self-care that heals your mind, body, and soul. Breakups are tough, and they can beat us down to the point of self-care deprivation. However, in order to heal, we need to remember that the end of a relationship is a part of life we can’t escape from. Instead of forgetting about ourselves, we should focus on our wellbeing, doing this in a way that our mind, our body, and our soul get the chance to recover from the pain we were feeling.
- Give of your time to others in need. Once we have taken the time to work on our physical and emotional well-being, we should consider giving some of our time to help those in need. We can choose between volunteering at a hospital, a church, a shelter, or any other charitable organization we might know of. Spending time with others who can use a helping hand will help us stop feeling sorry for ourselves while raising our self-esteem at the same time.
- Be open to meeting new people. After we have gone through the process of grief, focused on our well-being, and spent time helping others, we will be ready to go out and spend time with others. Being in the company of friends and relatives and putting ourselves in places where we feel supported and valued will be a key part of healing. Then we will be ready to meet new people and start creating a healthy and caring relationship with someone new.
“If you lost it, it’s because
you’re meant to find something better.
Trust, let go, and make room
for what’s coming.”
— Mandy Hale