Being a perfectionist can have its ups and downs, since it can help us stay motivated and push ourselves to be successful and achieve our goals, yet the voice of our inner critic can become a negative influence, too. When we are too hard on ourselves, we’re not only going to lose our focus and motivation, but it can take a toll on our well-being, leaving us feeling stressed and frustrated. Therefore, we have gathered 4 useful tips to start practicing self-compassion and make peace with our inner critic.
- Be forgiving. One of the most important steps to start practicing self-compassion is being more forgiving of our mistakes. We might feel frustrated when our plans or projects don’t go as planned. However, we must remember that we are not perfect and that our failures do not define who we are, and our friends and family won’t think less of us when we face difficult times.
- Keep a growth mindset. It is important to reflect on the type of mindset that we have, as it can have an impact on our well-being. When we have a growth mindset, it is easier for us to think of our challenges as opportunities to grow, to learn, and become better. Embracing our obstacles and taking them as opportunities to learn will help us achieve our goals faster than we think.
- Be grateful. Whenever we are facing a challenge, it is easy to feel stressed and focus on the negative aspects of our life journey, thinking about all we are missing to become who we want to be. Taking the time to express gratitude and being thankful for what we have, our achievements and our loved ones is a great way to stay positive and motivated to keep working hard.
- Keep generosity well balanced. There are three different types of people when it comes to generosity, those who are givers, those who are takers, and those who are matchers. Being selfless givers can make us forget about our own needs, while selfish takers will ignore the needs of others. Thus, we should keep in mind that our needs matter and we shouldn’t ignore them. When being generous, don’t disregard your resources, your energy, and your well-being.
“Our successes and failures come and go—
they neither define us nor do they
determine our worthiness.”